Simple Complication

Every time I try to write a love poem inspired by you, they seem to just get more simple, and more simple
Almost like there are too few words to explain the feelings I have about how God masterfully created your temple.
Please don't misunderstand me your body is just right, but what I am really talking about is the intellectual capacity of your mental
See what you were blessed with is fundamental

Gifted with the endurance of an oxen
Pulling and plowing day after day at your dreams yet gotten,
Carrying a loaded burden in your heart, heavier than could any stallion
yoked by amnesia, but let me remind you, you are astounding

Consummated with the passion of the venus ruled bull
Your just another one of love's fools
cuz out of your pores, the need for closeness, and your telling emotions ooze
Losing focus to your urge, just to settle for what some men would consider taboo


Poised as a Pharaoh, resiliently negotiating fate with Hemuset by any means
Taken by your royal essence I dream, dreams of me as your queen
You like Horus gave my faith for love life, after it had been murdered by the presence of Osiris

My love for you makes me want to hop into a time machine
just to go back and learn the ancient egyptian art of massage
So that I can use these hands, to caress all the tensions in your body out,
each and every night after night

But see you've bitterly barrecaded the best part of you
and trust me I understand, I once would have said "that's smart of you"
letting the pain of the past dictate your future
and the nay-sayers of the present apply your sutures

Seems you've forgotten that their modern medicine aint go nothin on love
The healing I have for you was created by none other than the one above
See I don't mind being 90 to your 10 so that you can become 100
So I, can know precisely that your visions of untamed ambition are not blighted

See Your the type of man that makes me realize I don't need a big diamond ring attached to an elaborate wedding band to wear on my hand
Cause your love in my heart would make my eyes sparkle more brilliant than any diamond can
Just a simple I do will do to lock our souls more tightly than if it were tiffany's, Tacori, or whateva brand

I guess what I'm trying to say is...
Every time I try to write a love poem inspired by you they seem to just get more simple and more simple
Almost like there are too few words to explain the feelings I have about how God masterfully created your temple.
Maybe if I wasn't so filled with the fear of hearing my own voice's nervous tremble
I'd stop trying to be so artful and just say...

I LOVE YOU

~Wonderwoman

Dying to Live Again

  On February 27th 2009 I died... I'v been mourning ever since. Grieving just in hopes that one day I will breath again... One Day This poem was inspired by my tragedy:

It was like trying to clean up shattered glass with out a broom... My entire being had come crashing out of the cave of my body smashing into the ground with out resistance... I mourned my own death like a mother losing her child. This person that I had worked so hard to become and had grown so fond of was no longer anything to be proud of. Who was I? Who had I become? What would this thing do to me and my future? WHY ME GOD? The big pieces were by no mean easy to pick up but they unlike the shards were less painful to endure... Day after day I tried to but myself back together. My life had become a constant game of jenga, just as I was about to put the last piece in it all would collapse. And I alone would once again have to figure out how to pick up the pieces. Still when I got to the last piece I had sitting on the table there were always some missing... My puzzle was always incomplete, my life was no longer filled with genuine laughter. Instead the struggle to get out of bed in the morning had taken precedent. I was taken captive by grief. The salt from my own tears became my most frequent form of nourishment... Silently with intent I'd stare into the wall as if it was going to bring me back to life...  Since I died I've been grieving and I don't see myself ever breathing.

« Wonderwoman Returns»

Pretending You Were Mine....

I've been patiently passing the time by pretending that you were mine
when I met you something called out from the depths of my soul
It was one of those right place, right time kind of finds
where everything, even your smile, seemed like a sign....

A sign that you belonged to me and I belonged to you...
and it got me thinking "maybe this whole soulmate thing is true"
see meeting you changed my whole philosophy
kinda like I was in an emotional prison and thoughts of you set me free

Talking to you felt like privacy in public
Intimacy at its finest cuz you were in to me and I was into you
but stubborn and shy I let you walk out of my life...
with no explanation why...

Watching you disappear out those doors caused an alien anxiety
but the pride in me said "if its meant to be he will find me"
my heart and soul said "Eff this I'm out of here" and just left from inside of me to find its destiny...

So I went home and let thoughts of you and me as one meet up with the sun
Don't get me wrong I'm not one of those love at first sight type of women,
but looking at you was like looking into the future....
You were a crystal ball and my heart was just answering its call...

A Date, a couple study sessions, one home cooked meal and months later and I still don't have my damn soul back...
Countless thoughts of you, a few romance drenched dreams, and still I can't seem to pull my heart from your grasp.
Which, I guess wouldn't be so bad... if... you were mine..

I might as well tell my soul goodbye
I'm done fighting an appointment so divine
Let me jus bid my heart farewell...
So I can go back to pretending that you were mine....

Love is Something We Do, So Why Do We Have To Talk About It??

  So maybe I believe this because of my lack of ability to communicate romantic emotions and by all means it may be 100% false but.... Love is something we do, a verb to describe our actions so why do we have to talk about it?  The moment I am confronted with a question in regards to how I feel about someone I always seem to freeze up.  Once again I know this is bad because I am a communications major but I just cant help it  (Good ole' fear is in the building again).

   I say all this just to ask, what does is it take to surrender to the words of love.... I mean yea we show people how we feel through our actions but don't those words feel so sweet when they roll off the tongue of someone who we continuously show our affection.  I know I love to feel it so what makes me think he wouldn't...  just food for thought I guess.

  From this day forward I am going to work on making my words and my action work as a team (YIKES!!).  I'm not saying it is going to be easy but I will definitely try and I think you all should seriously consider taking this step too... I mean it make your life a little bit better..  hey you never know.

WAKE UP CALL: I finally met my match, someone who sux at communicating just as much as I do and I DONT LIKE IT.. Guess that's why I am going to make an effort to be more vocal about my emotions.  I finally know what it feels like to be on the other side of the fence and when I say it is confusing and complicated as hell, I mean confusing and complicated as hell....

Well folks Im off to do some sculpting and be sculpted by the ways of actions in motions and words as descriptive as my emotions......

Poetry In Motion... Good for the Healing Soul

It's been a rough day but these always make me smile.... 

I'm Tryna Fall in Love w/ U in a Different language jut to see how it feels...

Is your name Yimmie Ya? Oh hell nah It's got to be Oshun....

It Could All Be So Simple...

Ladies Lauryn Hill said it best...

    "It could all be so simple, but you had to make it hard.  Loving you is like a battle, and we both end up with scars."




    Ever meet someone that you think could be your perfect match but you let fear lead you instead of love....  It is the hardest thing to do... That is, not let your past be your poison.

   Until recently I thought I was a good communicator.... I mean damn I am a communications major.  Truth is ladies and gentlemen I may be able to communicate for you but I can't communicate for my self at all....  Every time I think of my emotions I think of the heartbreak that I don't want to face.... Not very inspirational I know but I'm just being honest.

LOVE IS SELFLESS!!! That's what I keep hearing but truth is I am not ready to free fall nor be selfless... I have no room in my heart for pain therefor there is no room in my heart for love.

I know you have had this feeling and I just wanted you to know you are not the only one.....

Spiritual Mornings...

I woke up this morning and read scripture...


    I'm not going to lie, I usually don't but I know that I should and not because I am religious but because it puts your day in a different perspective.  I feel like my eyes are little more open and my life is a little less shallow because my morning thoughts don't just consist of "Ughhh I hate My hair" and "I look like I belong in the Partridge Family" type emergency.   My thoughts are laced with ways of improving my frame of mind therefore my life... any way thats enough back ground...


This were important to me today:


Psalm 23

 ¹The LORD is my shepherd; I shall not want.

 ²He maketh me to lie down in green pastures: he leadeth me beside the still waters.

 ³He restoreth my soul: he leadeth me in the paths of righteousness for his name's sake.

 ⁴Yea, though I walk through the valley of the shadow of death, I will fear no evil: for thou art    

    with me; thy rod and thy staff they comfort me.

 ⁵Thou preparest a table before me in the presence of mine enemies: thou anointest my head 

   with oil; my cup runneth over.

 ⁶Surely goodness and mercy shall follow me all the days of my life: and I will dwell in the house 

   of the LORD for ever.


Daily Kabbalah Lesson

There are five extensions of ego: anger, hatred, judgment, control and pride. These are the branches of the tree of ego - ways our ego can manifest. We all have the capacity to get upset. We all have those moments when we are disgusted with people. We all judge. We are all obsessed with trying to have some degree of control. We all tend to be self-important sometimes; this is pride. Ego can reach into all corners of life, when we allow it. Today, pay attention to the moments you are manifesting one of the five extensions. Dig into them, get underneath, and work on deflating them. Stay on track by remaining open and willing to uncover all of the guises of the ego. *Wonderwoman*

Believe The Hype!

Ladies please forgive me but I have to reveal some of our secrets publicly today.  Partially to help some of our fellow sisters realize their power and because I just feel like hyping women today (we are AMAZING damn it!!).

We as women have to realize that we have the power.... If you haven't heard the terminology before well then let me be the first to inform you about "P" Power... Yes it means exactly what you think it means and if you are a women you have it too.

Close your eye and just imagine yourself as a superhero (or villain, which ever you prefer), your power is to control members of the opposite sex.  Now open your eyes and grab your cape because, that's alllll you!  As a woman you can have anything you want, all you have to do is believe it.

Now as you can see I included not only superheroes but also villains because depending on how you choose to use your power you could be either one (personally I would consider myself a mix of the two).

The Instruction Manual for "P" Power:

    1. Make him comfortable...  It is vital that you always allow him to think his has the upper hand or is two steps ahead of him (in all actuality ladies you should never be behind or fall for any okie doke)

    2.  Get to know the object of your force... understand what makes him tick (with out asking).  This ladies is an art form,  any experienced woman knows that men are terrified to let women into their heads.

   3.  Just take it easy... stop wondering what is next (if you are doing what you have to do then it will be very apparent)
 
   4. Don't give it up FOR him... If you are not ready to sleep with him then don't.  Don't let him pressure you into anything and most importantly don't pressure yourself into anything...

This is just a small sneak preview if you need more feel free to ask....


USE YOUR "P" Power

   You run the world, you birth the world's leaders... All you have to do is recognize it and stop taking a back seat when you deserve a throne...

BELIEVE THE HYPE YOU ARE THE ALL POWERFUL!

~Wonderwoman

~ Wonder Woman FOR REAL

smiling. I am Free! I don't want to avoid him anymore, Im not said at the thought of him. Im just smiling... I truly have myself back... And I am so proud!

. A man I thought I was in love with from the core of me.... And guess what?? I wasn't even angry... He spoke to me and when we passed eachother I couldnt stop

I Was Smiling When We Passed

It is sooo amazing to be truly free. I saw someone today who broke me done emotionally when I was at my weakest point mentally

Why I gotta be a Gold Digga???

Hey Everyone!!

So over the last couple of days my status as a "Gold Digger" has been inferred by a few men. Even a few women have raised their eyebrow at me... well guess what silly rabbits the truth is "SMART GIRLS MARRY MONEY" no I'm not saying they marry only for assets but they definitely don't marry into liabilities.

I'd like to address the whole "Gold Digger" term and what has apparently put me into this category.

I WILL NOT/DO NOT pay on dates: If I'm paying we are just hanging out. There is no dating going on, we are just two friends meeting up to talk about life. I don't go dutch, I don't get the tip... It's as simple as this.

Why you ask? My daddy taught me I should never have to go into my purse unless I want to... the bottom line is whatever man I let in my life has to know he is the primary provider and always will be.

When I decide to start popping out kids what's going to happen when I can't work??? Is he going to ask me to go dutch on some diapers and formula while we are leaving the maternity ward?

If I NEED it and you offer it I will take it: Let me start by saying I don't ask for anything. I only take what is offered to me or I need at the time. If my suitor wants to spoil me why should I say no. A real man would never want to see his woman go with out.

The Point? I am a reflection of my man, if I am lacking the things that I need and he is not he is not doing his job as a man POINT BLANK PERIOD! Also keeping a smile on my face is most important. He can do it any way he wants for the free or for the dollar I don't care as long as I am smiling. If he wants to keep smiling I have to keep smiling. It's the way of the world folks!

He has to have HIS OWN PLACE: Before I begin let me say that I am very understanding and if there are extreme circumstances living with his parents can be tolerated for a short amount of time but... After a while he is going to have to cut the cord because I am not going to his mother and fathers house to sleep with him. At my age it is extremely disrespectful to have sex in a parents home, we are to able and grown for that. Also I do not go to hotels for the purpose of sex it is cheap and classless (unless of course we are "vacationing" from the real world"). Owning his place is a major plus... It is a definite sign that he is thinking of the future.

He can't be HOOD RICH: PLEASE DO NOT drive a brand new BMW and live in your parents apartment. That is UNACCEPTABLE. Don't buy all your friends bottles in the club and then have the nerve to ask me for some money the following week. If he is flashing his pinky ring but the bill collectors are calling his cell phone while we are out that is a problem. All it shows me is that he does not have the future nor stability in mind and that he is a show boat who needs the world to see what he really don't even own or can afford.

I say all this to say... I have standards and hey if your standards are so low that you can assign mine to that of a "gold digger" then SO BE IT.

But let me leave you with this: I have never heard anyone call a man a "Beauty Digger" and ladies truly if you calculate the money you spent at the mac counter and the mall trying to look good for him, because you know he wont have it any other way than you can surely say he is digging too!

IM HAVING A PRIVATE PARTY

So I have literally had the most fullfilling transformation over the past couple weeks and I have to share it with you!

Remember how I was going on and on about being lonely and finding someone who can "Heal Me"? Well guess what? I DID and It's me! I know, I know, DUH right. All along I was all I needed and I was looking for something more.

My first clue to this transformation was this sudden wave of comfortability I started to feel when I was alone and then I wasnt looking for any phone calls or attempting to reach out to any one... I was just happy with my self with out any attention from the opposite sex.

Second Ive been casually dating this guy off and on for almost a couple of months now and I don't look for his call or wait for the next time he ask me out and on top of that I'm not thinking what's next all the time Im just CHILLIN (literally).

There is more but that's a bit personal and I'm sure you don't want the nitty gritty details....

POINT IS, I AM FREEEEE! and It feels so good.... I can walk into a room full of people or a room that is empty and not feel alone now....

Where this came form?? I will never know.... I have a feeling it was a dateless weekend I had a few weeks back. I spent the weekend with my bestfriend OF COURSE and a couple of male FRIENDS (SA DI KI!!! -Gotta add that inside shout out real quick lol), the time I had with these guys that I wasnt intrested in was soo fulfilling and simple that I realized I don't need a romantic relationship with a man to keep me smiling....

IT's YOUR TURN.... Be Independent! Hey if I can do it so can you....


~Wond3rwoman

He Will Heal Me

In this last year I have truly found the secret to true love... It is divine. Though I have yet to find it I know that I will because God has placed an obstacle in my life that has made the opportunity for false truths to be a part of my relationships, impossible. If a man is willing to take me as I am, as I have become then we may just have a shot. The hurdles that a man will face in order to have me as I am have had the capability to create doubt in my own heart and to try my own faith in myself. I want a man that I can tell my biggest secret, A secret that has torn me down on countless occasions. I want him to want to love me flaws and all.... To have the strength to stay by my side he has to love me... Flaws and All... He has to be willing to risk his existence as he knows it just to be apart of mine...


I fear that he doesn't exist but I know that if he does God is keeping him for me and when comes the power and strength of love will undoubtedly surpass my flaw.


I Told him my biggest secret And he told me four. He smiled at me and said that makes me love more And then he made me laugh And I knew it was a sign That he was a man, That I wanted in my life And with every passing day I feel more and more of that way He heals me He knows the real me And he accepts me, he never hurts me He heals me He knows the real me And he accepts me, he never hurts me He heals me, He heals me I can play him songs, all through the night, And he will listen to every line, And even when I'm wrong, he is still kind He chooses his words wisely when he tells me I'm not right. And yes he is a beautiful man, But he is also a beautiful friend He heals me He knows the real me And he accepts me, he never hurts me He heals me He knows the real me And he accepts me, he never hurts me He heals me The moment that we met, he made me smile. He has so much compassion in his eyes I have no idea, how long he'll be here A season or a lifetime, forever or a year But for the first time in my life I'm not worried about the future Because we have such a wonderful time when we're together However things turn out, it's all right Cause he's already changed my life. He heals me He knows the real me And he accepts me, he never hurts me He heals me He knows the real me And he accepts me, he never hurts me He heals me..........

He Heals Me - India.Arie

~WONDERWOMAN

The DAILY SAVIOUR

Happy MONDAY!

Taming Thoughts:

Ladies this is the first day of the week, make it amazing. Let today set the tone for the rest of your week. Remember that in order to reach your goals you have to line up your steps according to your master plan and stick to them. No goal or dream is too big just prepare yourself for every opportunity to come and you will surely succeed!

Success is where Preparation and Opportunity meet.

~ Bobby Unser

Rescuing Rhythms:

Make the choice today to be all you can be! Prepare yourself for greatness! You all have what it takes to be great! Choose today to be proud of all that you produce and your dreams will never be too far ahead of you!

I Choose

~India Aire

~ Wonderwoman

The DAILY SAVIOUR

Taming Thought:

Put your life in RETROSPECT! The Grind has hold of us, today I want you to stop and admire the miracle of rain. Admire it's ability to replinish life. Let the rain replinish your soul

"We must not allow the clock and the calendar to blind us to the fact that each moment of life is a miracle and a mystery."

~H.G. Wells

Rescuing Rythm:

Fight the desire to give up... Don't retreat, just take a moment to receive your Sweet Justice with Jill and remember that "struggle only makes a man stronger"

"Many sides to the same face/ Searching, wanting their hour/ So many colors in the spectrum of life/ With right lies the power/ Struggle, Struggle, Struggle, Struggle/Struggle only makes a man stronger/If he believes within his heart that he can find it/ He will find it"

Sweet Justice

Jill Scott

With these thoughts in our hearts today we will surely prevail through fatigue and insecurity... Make everyday your day!

In Love With A Married Man...

So today I'm Telling It Like It Was Told, by women and men of a variety of geographics. Married, single, young, and old.

At this particular point in my life I realize that a relationship with strings attached is just not for me. Unlike many young women my age I have been there, done that, and then some so the games that are played by "men" my age fail to suprise me. Therefore I am stuck in what I call the twighlight zone of relationships where I am constantly disappointed or unimpressed. While discussing this with a few people a constant idea of how to solve this issue kept coming up...

I'm Telling It Like It Was Told... I was told to DATE MARRIED MEN!

It is my development that this idea is an epidemic that is a reality of our time... At one point or another in our lives we as women will have a friend who is in a relationship with a married man. It may even be us who is in that relationship. I am setting out today to discuss the PROs and CONs of these relationship in hopes that you will understand the decision that I have made.

PROs

While dating a married man you are allowed to acquire the same benefits that a "girlfriend" would acquire with out having to commit. I mean it's great you get to go on dates to where ever you choose because he wants to please you, he will take you on business trips with him so that he assures that you all can have some romantic alone time, if you ever need money he has it because he is already established, "intamacy" is always there because he adores you, and the sex is amazing because of the sheer adrenaline, etc., etc., etc. all while not having to commit (i.e. wash his dirty draws, clean up after him, or be around him when you don't want to). It's amazing.

CONs

It is my belief that a women can not have a continuos intimate relationship with a man without catching feelings for him... Now you may disagree but my point has been proven in everyone of our lives. Just think back to the guy you said you "didn't care about", or "didnt care what he did"... and that same guy is the one who pisted you off because of something he did do or say... Now you see what I mean? Here you are physically, mentally, and emotionally involved with a man who will never give you all of him let alone be able to commit to you (and if you think he is leaving his wife... YOU ARE STRAIGHT TRIPPIN). Not to mention the many nights you will spend sleeping alone... yea alone, just you and your not so warm pillow. Oh and try not to forget the karmic kick in the ass you will receive when you finally decide that you are in love and want to be in a commited relationship.

Basically It's like quick sand... Seems great at first and then next thing you are sinking and can't seem to get out of it's vicious grasp.

Now, I have to be honest peer pressure is a beast and YES I did CONSIDER this as an option but when weighing out my options I realized that this is a burden much to heavy to bear despite the "perks" and constant come ons that I receive from married men on a daily basis.

I hope you to will weigh out the PROs and CONs and even for those who are engaging in these type of relationships now, it's never too late... Are you really happy or is this a quick fix... are you happy saying "I am in love with a married man".... nope, I didnt think so.

I'm Just Saying...

Just keeping it real,

Ms. Thang

Spoken Word @ TILIWT: The Sweetest Thing

The Sweetest Thing

It was the sweetest thing.... Like sugar sucked straight from the womb of the cane. Brown skin brown eyes. So divine I want nothing in between his and mine. Free to smile with my soul... feelings that once again I am whole. Living on the inspiration created by the provocation of his touch. and in each and every instance it is him, him that reminds me to live mind free, him that supplies me with sublime glee...

oh it was soooo sweet the thing that went on between he and me. sweet as fresh lemonade on a southern summer day. Sun shining on the beauty in his face. Warm breezes blowing in between my thighs where he often lay. Peace in my heart wanting nothing more and nothing less than to just stay in his arms grace. Nothing more and nothing less than to be enveloped by his warm embrace. Oh how the invitation in to his world gives me so much inspiration created by him, he is the provocation. Bringing the ultimate cooperation between mind body and soul. His appointment so divine here at the opportune time. Teaching me to live unshackled by questions and answers. Allowing me trust, allowing me to thrive outside of the prison of definite certainty.

Ohh its the sweetest thing in bliss I sing, sing his name as he strokes his brush against the canvas that is me... simple like gray scale colors capture all that he sees in me.. black and white like the simplicity that is we... letting him into me time and time again with no never mind for seconds, minutes, hours, days, weeks, month. With no never mind for anything but his soul inside of me. Sounds of pleasure escape me created by nothing more than a mental touch. Fingertips laced with a substance of intoxication, a substance of intoxication and the cause of my addictive nature.

Ohh it was soo sweet… Like sugar sucked straight from the womb of the cane…
It was so sweet the thing that went on between he and me…
It was the sweetest thing in bliss I sing…
Ohh it was the sweetest… The sweetest thing to grace me in my dreams…



~ Sabrina K. Garba

Ms. Thang

Budget: Kill The Ugly Monster Behind RETAIL THERAPY

Ok Ladies so I must admit that I have struggled with the thrill of making a purchase (especially when you think you are getting a deal). We all have, but for me during the last seven months my habits have spun out of control. Yea true I can blame it on my trails, tribulations, and stress but to be honest with myself I must have lost touch with reality. To be honest with you and myself for a student I make a nice income topped with assistance from my dad, so I have NO REASON to be living pay check to pay check. Once I sat back and thought about my debt infested life style it all boiled down to realizing two major ideals. Everything is not for everybody AND saving now will guarantee peace of mind later. Now what does that boil down to???

Everything is not for everybody, in otherwise just because the next Tom, Dick, Harry, Sarah, or Marsha can afford it that doesn't mean you can. I found myself moping around because everyone else was in NY, ATL, LA, MIA, CANCUN, and the list goes on and on. The idea that I should be doing this too crept into my mind and next thing you know I was spending Money on Six flags Great America, Trips to NY, Trips to NC, Trips to GA, and the list once again goes on and on. Truth is I didn't realize that I was paying hidden fees for all of those trips. Six Flags for example ran me the cost of admissions, gas from DC to Jersey and back, food, and also the most hidden of them all added mileage to Carmen Corolla (no need to ask who this is I think you get the picture). While all this money was being spent I didn't think about how I am usually sweating as I write the rent check... This is a major problem!

Saving now, guaranteeing peace of mind later is the harder pill to swallow. It is soooo hard to let go of temporary joys in the hopes of attaining one that is intangible. One that will "supposedly" be so great in the future and of course it is our natural instinct to say I WANT IT NOW!! But if we would just hold out on the little things we could have the big things. For example, recently I was searching for apartments in the DC area, now if you are familiar with DC or any metropolitan area you know that my options were cheap and dangerous or expensive and luxurious. I searched fervently and refused to widen my search to Maryland or Virginia to expand my options. I used the commute as an excuse, by saying I work and live in DC and I would be tired etc etc.... All of this was an EXCUSE. As you can imagine the units I found were not impressive or not in my price range. After a Long Talk with a friend of mine reality set in... I realized I was looking for new and modern when the only thing that mattered was my safety and peace of mind. While my current apartment was nice and in a perfect location for me I was paying a whopping $1250 without utilities and this was causing me great strife. I mean think about it I wasn't investing so who cared if it was granite counter tops or not. What mattered what that I could comfortably pay the bills and manage my stress. With this said I chose an apartment in Maryland that is 20 minutes from school and 10 from work. I also chose the most economical of the chooses that they had to offer and I can feel my financial burden being lifted already THANK GOD.

It is of utmost importance for us to remember simple principles such as these. They are the keys to success and stress free financial atmospheres. Cutting corners have led a lot of people happiness. I find someone in particular to be amazing, Ms. Shynea aka the Penny Pinching Diva is a stay at home mother of four who lives off a familial spending budget that would make most of us pull our hair out. Instead she does it with savvy, intelligence, and a smile. I have to admit that I have set forth to follow financially in her foots steps. Ms. PPD has the ability to walk into a grocery store and come out paying sometimes less than half the price we would normally pay and even getting a lot of her items for THE FREE, and I know how much we all love THE FREE.... I mean lets be real she can walk into the store and get two Byers yogurts and walk out having paid NOTHING for them. Her coupon stacking techniques are well worth the time and effort. It is my personal belief that we should all GET LIKE HER!!! Her website http://pennypinchingdiva.com/ features amazing deals and coupons as well as hints to making your spending worth every penny. Allow her to make a contribution to your life by subscribing to her email serve and visiting her site. You will not be disappointed.

With that said, BUDGET... keep the future in mind with every purchase and find ways to improve your quality of life and minimize your level of stress... Trust me you wont regret it....

Liberating myself financially,
Ms. Thang

Learning to Love Being Alone

First off I want to say SORRY!!! It has been a time consuming few weeks and I know that I have left you all stranded. Now to the task at hand:

I must admit that I have been suffering from the ever so present Loneliness that goes along with being single. Each day I have to struggle to keep myself from settling for less, just to feel the warmth of companionship. Ladies it is not easy and I know many of you are aware of this. Tossing and turning at night, trying to absorb warmth and comfort from cuddling your pillow is becoming less and less satisfying, I KNOW THE FEELING. But I have to tell it like it was told, this time by Pastor John K. Jenkins of The First Baptist Church of Glenarden. He mentioned the fact that sometimes we as women will accept anything from a man just to say that we have one. This is not only sad but also alarmingly true.

It is time for us to raise the bar and realize that we have more to offer than the skill of satisfying sexual desires. For once lets look at our ability to be amazing mothers, wives, and business women. It is this that will carry us to the opportunity to be warmed by the comfort of a man instead of the chill of our own pillow.

NO DOUBT you will have desperate times, for example recently I even resorted to calling my successful male associates to ask them where I could find the intelligent successful black men... As you can imagine I got a variety of answers, one even offered his self as an option and of course I fell into the trap... I know I know... shame shame shame... but loneliness is a BEAST and society supports it's hunger by telling us that we should have someone and if we don't we are missing out. While we are programmed to accept this notion we also know that we should not settle. Here is where the internal battle starts. Do I settle with a man or do I not and end up holding onto my pillow for God knows how long.

Well I say you load your bed with heavy comforters, drink some hot tea, and shove a heating pack into your pillow, and call it a night because anything worth having is worth waiting for. Be steadfast and hold on for the right man ladies, protect your assets like they are all you have. Because they are all you have and if every man is privy to them then the will not be worth nearly as much.When the urge comes call a friend, a girl friend that is and talk through it so that you never settle for Mr. Right Now.

It is also important to get to know you, on your own with out the influences of another. The time that we spend alone is at time the most revealing and pure of all encounters. It is these occasion that help us to build our self concept and allow us to become better for not only ourselves but also for the ones that are right for us.... as a wise old woman used to say if you can't be alone with yourself what makes you think anyone else will...



Ladies if you know that you are settling, get the heating pads ready, grab a romance novel, and have a good nights sleep tonight ALONE!



Struggling By Your Side,



Ms. Thang

Fighting The "Glass Ceiling"

This time I'm Telling It Like It Was Told by a woman to a man... While suffering from a creative block I asked one of my male friends what he has heard his female friends stress over (other than men) as of late and this is what he came up with:

Being able to see the top but never being able to reach it, this is the phenomena, created by the "glass ceiling". Despite educational accomplishments or experience, women (especially black women) have faced the halting power of the "glass ceiling" since their entrance into corporate America.

This prevention of advancement has been displayed in many forms with in corporations,one of these is Differences in Pay for similar(the same) work: Better known as "The Gender Wage Gap" it has been found that women make 75.3 cents on the dollar to men and are also more frequently hired for positions that are of a lower pay grade (i.e. administrative vs. managerial).

How can you fight this?

Between 2008 and 2009 the number of firms owned by African American women have increased 19% and have generated about 29 billion dollars in sales nationwide. Women have been able to not only move up in position but also in pay grade. These women have been fighting the glass ceiling by becoming their own bosses. THIS COULD BE YOU!

Things You Can Do:

First things first, Remember Your Passion!!!! Invest your energy in what you love, do what you love. For instance if you love to cook, start your own catering business or be a visiting chef. If you love to sew start a tailoring business. Your passions and talents will lead you above the glass ceiling and beyond by putting your destiny in your own hands.

More Examples of What you Can Do:

Be A Consultant for Soul Purpose:

"Soul Purpose is dedicated to providing entrepreneurial opportunities and resources to empower people (with a focus on African American, Hispanic, Asian and Native American women). Our goal is to help entrepreneurs launch and sustain viable socially-responsible businesses that will create wealth, stimulate growth and revitalize minority and other communities across the country and globally." Soul Purpose was formed and created by former CEO of Warm Spirit. Soul Purpose Representatives sale naturally made beauty products. Feel free to explore your options at http://www.soulpurpose.com/

Be A Consultant for Passion Parties:

Timid as we can be as black women, selling sex toys is a LUCRATIVE MARKET. It's time for us to shed the shame and make as much as $5,000 a month. Companies such as passion parties (the ultimate girls night in) give you the opportunity to go from being a consultant to an executive director. Like many other organizations such as this one you would have the ability to work toward bonuses and cars. "Passion Parties, Inc. offers women the opportunity to own and manage their own business, while promoting sexual awareness and well-being. Our direct-selling business model provides generous rewards and recognition for our independent Passion Consultants™. " To find out more about this opportunity visit at http://www.passionparties.com/

These are just a few ways that you can fight the "Glass Ceiling". START TODAY, be your own boss and keep your destiny in your own hands.

Fighting For Success,

Ms. Thang

WE CAN BE ON TOP OF THE WORLD

It's Never Too Late

.... to fall in love that is. Now ladies it's time to be real the Dow is down in the market of love and sometimes we can get discouraged but I'm here to tell you to hold on because their is someone for you! As always I am telling it like it was told... this time by me LOVELY Step Mommy. Turns out my Godmother who is successful yet single (never been married) with no children and in her fourties has found the love of her life. Funny thing is she has known him her WHOLE life.

The story goes like this:

Since high school this man has had a crush on her and he has been professing his love of her ever since then. Unfortunately every time he tried to come around or go to her house her dad always made sure to let him know he wasn't welcomed (trying to protect his house full of daughters of course). So God Mommy,(never knowing how he felt) went through a few dead end relationships UNTIL recently when her little sister happened to run into him. He gave her his number to pass on to God Mommy and she called him. From what I hear the phone conversation went something like:

"Hello_____, This is (Insert God Mommy's name here)"

he then says,

"The Love of My life" (AHHHH can you believe his response!)

and conversation ensues...

So of course they end up meeting up and when he sees her he says, "You look just the same" so lets be real she looks different (alot) than she used to but I'm convinced that he can see her spirit and it is still the same (just a beautiful as she is). Well since then they have been having a mad love affair and the discussion of marriage has even come up and when I say God Mommy had given up on the idea of marriage I'm telling you she had given up! Not any more ladies the bells are ringing!

I don't know about you but she just gave me hope like no other!!! WOO HOO maybe I won't be successful yet single after all, looks like there is a possibility for both. I hope this restores your faith that you one day will too find the love of your life whether it be next week or next decade (we hope not) Mr. Right will come your way!


Holding Out for Real Love,

Ms. Thang

Ladies Why in The World Do We Do It to Ourselves???

   While having a conversation with my sister today she asked me a question that sent my mind into over drive.  "Why do women go on dates with guys that we have no interest in?"  Ok let's think about this one.  We fuss over what we are going to wear, trying to find the best outfit (so that we can capture their attention), we spend time tediously mulling over our hair, make up, and nails just so that we can be irritated the whole night every time he makes a move on us.  Now I must admit I have been the culprit of this many times. But I just can't pin point the  exact reason so I asked around and this is what I got:

Boredom: It always seems like the guy that I don't want to date is the one who ask me on a date when I'm at boredom's peak.  So of course I agree.  Though I am always tempted to pull out on the day of the date I go due to feeling like it's my moral obligation (This seems to be my number one reason).

Hunger:  Some women just want a free meal and see the guy as a way to get a good eat on someone Else's budget.  (It is true that I have a pallet that is not always satisfied by my own pocket's ability so I have to plead guilty to this one too.)

Getting Ahead:  Women have joined the professional ranks with men and we use everything we can to get ahead of them.  Our sex appeal is with out a doubt one of their weaknesses and if we know that man has some experience or con

tacts in the field we want to be in we do what we have to do to get our foot in the door. (Like the time I had lunch with this cheesy, egotistical resident when I thought I wanted to go to medical school)

Ego Boosting:  Maybe it's just the thrill of turning him down or knowing in you mind that he never has a chance.  Just the opportunity to leave him standing on your door step with the door shut just when he gets ready for the good night kiss. (I plead the 5th LMAO)

There are plenty reasons that we as women suffer through hours of agony with the guys who we know just aren't for us.  Even in knowing we do it early, we do it late, and we do it often.  I wonder if the time we spend with Mr. Wrong is stopping us from meeting Mr. Right (or at least Mr. Right Now) or if it even matters.  

Next time you go out with a guy you aren't interested in ask yourself why.... "Why am I wasting my time, or am I?" 

Help Me get to the bottom of this one ladies....

Wondering Why,

Ms. Thang

Birth Control Risk & Deaths

A very good friend of mine sent me an email recently containing the shocking details of Nicole Dishuk's death caused by birth control. After fainting she was rushed to a near by hospital where they discovered a blood clot in her neck that later traveled to her brain and eventually killed her. Nicole was said to be using a birth control that prompted her cycle only every three months. After doing research I have found that these cases are popping up everywhere and women are dying as young as 16 from these deadly side affects. Ortho Evra alone is cited as the cause of 23 deaths with 17 of them being in the past two years.

Contraceptives such as Yaz, Ortho Tri-Cylen, and Ortho Evra contain a hormone replacement called Desogestrel that was found in studies dating back to 1995 to double the risk of blood clots in women using birth control.

Birth control has been said to be the cause of blood clots, strokes, heart attacks, and depression. It has also been said to raise the risk of infertility, breast cancer, cardiovascular disease, and thromboembolism.

Now ladies I do not mean to tell you not to protect yourselves. What I'm trying to say is don't be afraid to tell that brother to RAP IT UP!!! It may save your life.

Stay Healthy,

Sabrina a.k.a Ms. Thang

Telling It Like It Was Told: From Sister 2 Sister

For generations we as women have sought out the advice of our grandmothers, mothers, and sisters on matters that only they as fellow women can understand. This age old tradition is fading but not lost. It is important that we continue to use our resources so that we can protect ourselves from the variety of issues that face us today as black women. Sharing with one another about health issues, money, family, and relationships will help us to usurp lustrous futures, and strive to be the creme de la creme of society.



It is unacceptable for you to say and allow yourself to believe, "I don't get along with females" ,"I really don't like to mess with girls like that" or "I don't have anything in common with other women". Allowing ourselves to separate from the very thing that makes us who we are and those alike leaves us prey to realities that we would much rather not experience. If you truly feel detached from your feminine counter parts and can not see a Friend in them, I am always and will always be here Telling It Like It Was Told....



From Sister 2 Sister,



Ms. Thang



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