So over the last couple of days my status as a "Gold Digger" has been inferred by a few men. Even a few women have raised their eyebrow at me... well guess what silly rabbits the truth is "SMART GIRLS MARRY MONEY" no I'm not saying they marry only for assets but they definitely don't marry into liabilities.
I'd like to address the whole "Gold Digger" term and what has apparently put me into this category.
I WILL NOT/DO NOT pay on dates: If I'm paying we are just hanging out. There is no dating going on, we are just two friends meeting up to talk about life. I don't go dutch, I don't get the tip... It's as simple as this.
Why you ask? My daddy taught me I should never have to go into my purse unless I want to... the bottom line is whatever man I let in my life has to know he is the primary provider and always will be.
When I decide to start popping out kids what's going to happen when I can't work??? Is he going to ask me to go dutch on some diapers and formula while we are leaving the maternity ward?
If I NEED it and you offer it I will take it: Let me start by saying I don't ask for anything. I only take what is offered to me or I need at the time. If my suitor wants to spoil me why should I say no. A real man would never want to see his woman go with out.
The Point? I am a reflection of my man, if I am lacking the things that I need and he is not he is not doing his job as a man POINT BLANK PERIOD! Also keeping a smile on my face is most important. He can do it any way he wants for the free or for the dollar I don't care as long as I am smiling. If he wants to keep smiling I have to keep smiling. It's the way of the world folks!
He has to have HIS OWN PLACE: Before I begin let me say that I am very understanding and if there are extreme circumstances living with his parents can be tolerated for a short amount of time but... After a while he is going to have to cut the cord because I am not going to his mother and fathers house to sleep with him. At my age it is extremely disrespectful to have sex in a parents home, we are to able and grown for that. Also I do not go to hotels for the purpose of sex it is cheap and classless (unless of course we are "vacationing" from the real world"). Owning his place is a major plus... It is a definite sign that he is thinking of the future.
He can't be HOOD RICH: PLEASE DO NOT drive a brand new BMW and live in your parents apartment. That is UNACCEPTABLE. Don't buy all your friends bottles in the club and then have the nerve to ask me for some money the following week. If he is flashing his pinky ring but the bill collectors are calling his cell phone while we are out that is a problem. All it shows me is that he does not have the future nor stability in mind and that he is a show boat who needs the world to see what he really don't even own or can afford.
I say all this to say... I have standards and hey if your standards are so low that you can assign mine to that of a "gold digger" then SO BE IT.
But let me leave you with this: I have never heard anyone call a man a "Beauty Digger" and ladies truly if you calculate the money you spent at the mac counter and the mall trying to look good for him, because you know he wont have it any other way than you can surely say he is digging too!
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