Love is Something We Do, So Why Do We Have To Talk About It??

  So maybe I believe this because of my lack of ability to communicate romantic emotions and by all means it may be 100% false but.... Love is something we do, a verb to describe our actions so why do we have to talk about it?  The moment I am confronted with a question in regards to how I feel about someone I always seem to freeze up.  Once again I know this is bad because I am a communications major but I just cant help it  (Good ole' fear is in the building again).

   I say all this just to ask, what does is it take to surrender to the words of love.... I mean yea we show people how we feel through our actions but don't those words feel so sweet when they roll off the tongue of someone who we continuously show our affection.  I know I love to feel it so what makes me think he wouldn't...  just food for thought I guess.

  From this day forward I am going to work on making my words and my action work as a team (YIKES!!).  I'm not saying it is going to be easy but I will definitely try and I think you all should seriously consider taking this step too... I mean it make your life a little bit better..  hey you never know.

WAKE UP CALL: I finally met my match, someone who sux at communicating just as much as I do and I DONT LIKE IT.. Guess that's why I am going to make an effort to be more vocal about my emotions.  I finally know what it feels like to be on the other side of the fence and when I say it is confusing and complicated as hell, I mean confusing and complicated as hell....

Well folks Im off to do some sculpting and be sculpted by the ways of actions in motions and words as descriptive as my emotions......

Poetry In Motion... Good for the Healing Soul

It's been a rough day but these always make me smile.... 

I'm Tryna Fall in Love w/ U in a Different language jut to see how it feels...

Is your name Yimmie Ya? Oh hell nah It's got to be Oshun....

It Could All Be So Simple...

Ladies Lauryn Hill said it best...

    "It could all be so simple, but you had to make it hard.  Loving you is like a battle, and we both end up with scars."




    Ever meet someone that you think could be your perfect match but you let fear lead you instead of love....  It is the hardest thing to do... That is, not let your past be your poison.

   Until recently I thought I was a good communicator.... I mean damn I am a communications major.  Truth is ladies and gentlemen I may be able to communicate for you but I can't communicate for my self at all....  Every time I think of my emotions I think of the heartbreak that I don't want to face.... Not very inspirational I know but I'm just being honest.

LOVE IS SELFLESS!!! That's what I keep hearing but truth is I am not ready to free fall nor be selfless... I have no room in my heart for pain therefor there is no room in my heart for love.

I know you have had this feeling and I just wanted you to know you are not the only one.....

Spiritual Mornings...

I woke up this morning and read scripture...


    I'm not going to lie, I usually don't but I know that I should and not because I am religious but because it puts your day in a different perspective.  I feel like my eyes are little more open and my life is a little less shallow because my morning thoughts don't just consist of "Ughhh I hate My hair" and "I look like I belong in the Partridge Family" type emergency.   My thoughts are laced with ways of improving my frame of mind therefore my life... any way thats enough back ground...


This were important to me today:


Psalm 23

 ¹The LORD is my shepherd; I shall not want.

 ²He maketh me to lie down in green pastures: he leadeth me beside the still waters.

 ³He restoreth my soul: he leadeth me in the paths of righteousness for his name's sake.

 ⁴Yea, though I walk through the valley of the shadow of death, I will fear no evil: for thou art    

    with me; thy rod and thy staff they comfort me.

 ⁵Thou preparest a table before me in the presence of mine enemies: thou anointest my head 

   with oil; my cup runneth over.

 ⁶Surely goodness and mercy shall follow me all the days of my life: and I will dwell in the house 

   of the LORD for ever.


Daily Kabbalah Lesson

There are five extensions of ego: anger, hatred, judgment, control and pride. These are the branches of the tree of ego - ways our ego can manifest. We all have the capacity to get upset. We all have those moments when we are disgusted with people. We all judge. We are all obsessed with trying to have some degree of control. We all tend to be self-important sometimes; this is pride. Ego can reach into all corners of life, when we allow it. Today, pay attention to the moments you are manifesting one of the five extensions. Dig into them, get underneath, and work on deflating them. Stay on track by remaining open and willing to uncover all of the guises of the ego. *Wonderwoman*

Believe The Hype!

Ladies please forgive me but I have to reveal some of our secrets publicly today.  Partially to help some of our fellow sisters realize their power and because I just feel like hyping women today (we are AMAZING damn it!!).

We as women have to realize that we have the power.... If you haven't heard the terminology before well then let me be the first to inform you about "P" Power... Yes it means exactly what you think it means and if you are a women you have it too.

Close your eye and just imagine yourself as a superhero (or villain, which ever you prefer), your power is to control members of the opposite sex.  Now open your eyes and grab your cape because, that's alllll you!  As a woman you can have anything you want, all you have to do is believe it.

Now as you can see I included not only superheroes but also villains because depending on how you choose to use your power you could be either one (personally I would consider myself a mix of the two).

The Instruction Manual for "P" Power:

    1. Make him comfortable...  It is vital that you always allow him to think his has the upper hand or is two steps ahead of him (in all actuality ladies you should never be behind or fall for any okie doke)

    2.  Get to know the object of your force... understand what makes him tick (with out asking).  This ladies is an art form,  any experienced woman knows that men are terrified to let women into their heads.

   3.  Just take it easy... stop wondering what is next (if you are doing what you have to do then it will be very apparent)
 
   4. Don't give it up FOR him... If you are not ready to sleep with him then don't.  Don't let him pressure you into anything and most importantly don't pressure yourself into anything...

This is just a small sneak preview if you need more feel free to ask....


USE YOUR "P" Power

   You run the world, you birth the world's leaders... All you have to do is recognize it and stop taking a back seat when you deserve a throne...

BELIEVE THE HYPE YOU ARE THE ALL POWERFUL!

~Wonderwoman

~ Wonder Woman FOR REAL

smiling. I am Free! I don't want to avoid him anymore, Im not said at the thought of him. Im just smiling... I truly have myself back... And I am so proud!

. A man I thought I was in love with from the core of me.... And guess what?? I wasn't even angry... He spoke to me and when we passed eachother I couldnt stop

I Was Smiling When We Passed

It is sooo amazing to be truly free. I saw someone today who broke me done emotionally when I was at my weakest point mentally

Why I gotta be a Gold Digga???

Hey Everyone!!

So over the last couple of days my status as a "Gold Digger" has been inferred by a few men. Even a few women have raised their eyebrow at me... well guess what silly rabbits the truth is "SMART GIRLS MARRY MONEY" no I'm not saying they marry only for assets but they definitely don't marry into liabilities.

I'd like to address the whole "Gold Digger" term and what has apparently put me into this category.

I WILL NOT/DO NOT pay on dates: If I'm paying we are just hanging out. There is no dating going on, we are just two friends meeting up to talk about life. I don't go dutch, I don't get the tip... It's as simple as this.

Why you ask? My daddy taught me I should never have to go into my purse unless I want to... the bottom line is whatever man I let in my life has to know he is the primary provider and always will be.

When I decide to start popping out kids what's going to happen when I can't work??? Is he going to ask me to go dutch on some diapers and formula while we are leaving the maternity ward?

If I NEED it and you offer it I will take it: Let me start by saying I don't ask for anything. I only take what is offered to me or I need at the time. If my suitor wants to spoil me why should I say no. A real man would never want to see his woman go with out.

The Point? I am a reflection of my man, if I am lacking the things that I need and he is not he is not doing his job as a man POINT BLANK PERIOD! Also keeping a smile on my face is most important. He can do it any way he wants for the free or for the dollar I don't care as long as I am smiling. If he wants to keep smiling I have to keep smiling. It's the way of the world folks!

He has to have HIS OWN PLACE: Before I begin let me say that I am very understanding and if there are extreme circumstances living with his parents can be tolerated for a short amount of time but... After a while he is going to have to cut the cord because I am not going to his mother and fathers house to sleep with him. At my age it is extremely disrespectful to have sex in a parents home, we are to able and grown for that. Also I do not go to hotels for the purpose of sex it is cheap and classless (unless of course we are "vacationing" from the real world"). Owning his place is a major plus... It is a definite sign that he is thinking of the future.

He can't be HOOD RICH: PLEASE DO NOT drive a brand new BMW and live in your parents apartment. That is UNACCEPTABLE. Don't buy all your friends bottles in the club and then have the nerve to ask me for some money the following week. If he is flashing his pinky ring but the bill collectors are calling his cell phone while we are out that is a problem. All it shows me is that he does not have the future nor stability in mind and that he is a show boat who needs the world to see what he really don't even own or can afford.

I say all this to say... I have standards and hey if your standards are so low that you can assign mine to that of a "gold digger" then SO BE IT.

But let me leave you with this: I have never heard anyone call a man a "Beauty Digger" and ladies truly if you calculate the money you spent at the mac counter and the mall trying to look good for him, because you know he wont have it any other way than you can surely say he is digging too!

IM HAVING A PRIVATE PARTY

So I have literally had the most fullfilling transformation over the past couple weeks and I have to share it with you!

Remember how I was going on and on about being lonely and finding someone who can "Heal Me"? Well guess what? I DID and It's me! I know, I know, DUH right. All along I was all I needed and I was looking for something more.

My first clue to this transformation was this sudden wave of comfortability I started to feel when I was alone and then I wasnt looking for any phone calls or attempting to reach out to any one... I was just happy with my self with out any attention from the opposite sex.

Second Ive been casually dating this guy off and on for almost a couple of months now and I don't look for his call or wait for the next time he ask me out and on top of that I'm not thinking what's next all the time Im just CHILLIN (literally).

There is more but that's a bit personal and I'm sure you don't want the nitty gritty details....

POINT IS, I AM FREEEEE! and It feels so good.... I can walk into a room full of people or a room that is empty and not feel alone now....

Where this came form?? I will never know.... I have a feeling it was a dateless weekend I had a few weeks back. I spent the weekend with my bestfriend OF COURSE and a couple of male FRIENDS (SA DI KI!!! -Gotta add that inside shout out real quick lol), the time I had with these guys that I wasnt intrested in was soo fulfilling and simple that I realized I don't need a romantic relationship with a man to keep me smiling....

IT's YOUR TURN.... Be Independent! Hey if I can do it so can you....


~Wond3rwoman